29 August 2015
Finding the words
At times like these it is nothing short of a privilege to lead a school community. Yes, it is difficult and painful, but there is also tremendous beauty in watching people lean on and support each other with generous, heartfelt comfort and concern. While we see and feel brokenness, we also see and feel humanity at its most altruistic, and the school feels different for a time. Petty grievances are set aside, unimportant matters truly become peripheral and the simple inclination to hold the moment as sacred, and to be with and for others becomes our core heartspace.
Zane’s life, illness and death have transformed so many people. We have been touched by his charisma, his tenacity, his humour. Even those who did not know him personally have taken meaning and encouragement from his story, reminded that every life is sacred and that grace comes to us in the most unusual of places.
Today we gathered in the Gonzales Centre with his family to celebrate his life, and to draw strength from each other and from our faith. Like most funerals, Zane’s was a mysterious mix of sadness, laughter and joy. In our faith tradition we allow the sadness to dwell in our hearts, but we do so knowing that death is not the end. We may be enveloped by grief, but we are not overcome by it, because our faith teaches us, through the life of Jesus, that death is not the end: light overcomes the darkness; good overcomes evil; Good Friday is always followed by Easter Sunday. And even though we might not understand it, we give thanks.
Psychologists tells us that the ability to live gratefully is one of the best indicators of personal wellbeing. This week, of all weeks, there is so much to be thankful for:
I am thankful for our allied staff, whose willingness to step in and support the management of each day was taken to a new level. Their unassuming and forward-thinking service of our community, has provided the time and space for others to care for your sons and daughters. We say thank you.
I am thankful for all those community members who offered kind words of support. If might not feel like much, but when all around is sadness, it is a real lift to know that others are thinking of us. We say thank you.
And we go on…
Many of you have been watching our Facebook page over the past few days. You would have noticed that in the midst of this challenging week, we have continued to report on the normal, important successes and interests of our students. For many of the students and adults in our community, a normal routine and the ability to keep their minds and hearts busy has been significant. Routine and tradition hold meaning for us and are important markers of our day and lives. At times like these, we are reminded of the unpredictability and vulnerability of life, and so our prayer today might simply be to thank God for routine and predictability, and to ask for the grace to enter into moments of disruption and chaos, knowing that God is present, and that, as St Julian of Nowrich so beautifully put it: ‘All will be well, and all will be well, and all manner of things will be well’. Amen.
Peace and blessings,